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"Honey, I'm home," you say as you walk through the door after a long day at work. What type of reception do you receive from your significant other? Do you get the feeling that your S.O. is thanking his or her lucky stars that you made it home safely? Or is he or she asking you a million questions about where you were all day, what you did, and the details of every single conversation you had?
If you feel as though you're under investigation each day, as though you're placing too much worry on your significant other, or if your job causes a lot of arguments, your job and your relationship might not match up so well.
Some careers are tougher on relationships than others, as reported in cheatsheet.com.
Using data on divorce rates and job stress, we've created a list of careers that make the work-love life balance a lot harder. And when we talk about jobs that are tough on a relationship, we're not only referring to the obvious ones (think exotic dancer); you may not expect some of these careers to throw salt on your relationship game. Check out the jobs on the following pages.
1. Casino worker (and other gaming service worker)
Many casinos are open 24/7/365. Workers at these types of establishments often work irregular hours, and they may even have to work on holidays. In addition to working during odd hours, casino workers may work around alcohol, gambling, and a party-like environment — this can place added strain on a relationship, too.
A 2010 study of Census data published by the Journal of Police and Criminal Psychology found that gaming services workers had one of the highest divorce rates relative to other occupations. With a divorce rate of 31.4 percent (34.7 percent for gaming cage workers), this is exceptionally high when compared to the roughly 16 percent of Americans across all occupations who had been divorced or separated at the time of the data collection. And, to top it all off, gaming services workers are only paid a median salary of around $27,000 per year, per BLS estimates.
2. Massage therapist
We all know what it's like to have that green-eyed monster emerge. In an Oprah.com publication, Helen Fisher describes jealousy as a "sickening combination of possessiveness, suspicion, rage, and humiliation." It's not unique to men or women, and even other species (like chimps and bluebirds) are faced with jealousy.
Given that the job of a massage therapist involves physical interaction, we probably don't even need to explain why this occupation could place a burden on a relationship. "What type of clients did you have today?" and "What exactly did you do all day?" are some routine questions a message therapist may hear from a jealous significant other.
Massage therapists are paid a moderate salary — roughly $40,000 per year — to perform their services. According to the Journal of Police and Criminal Psychology study, the divorce rate across this occupation is exceptionally high, at 38.2 percent.
3. Waiter or bartender
Bartenders are consistently around people who are consuming alcohol. They are assigned the task of being in the center of it all, as a big part of their job is to improve the customer experience. It requires a certain degree of people skills to bartend, and some people are really great at it.
When you're in a relationship, however, this job can be a source of problems. Bartenders may not know exactly what time they'll be home from work — they often have to wait until all of the customers leave the establishment so they can perform their side-work before leaving for the night. The Journal study found that bartenders have the second-highest divorce rates, at 38.4 percent.
Waiters may face similar challenges to bartenders when it comes to maintaining a relationship. Odd hours, coupled with a unique work environment, can cause strain on any couple. Plus, waiters and bartenders may face financial issues, as they generally work for tips, which is a notoriously inconsistent form of income.
4. Athlete, entertainer, or dancer
Famous marriages, separations, divorces, and remarriages are often in the public eye. And with a 28.5 percent divorce rate among athletes, performers, entertainers, and related workers, there's no shortage of juicy gossip in this arena. Maybe it's the nature of the industry that places a strain on relationships: A large amount of travel, attention, and stress can place a burden on any couple.
Dancers and choreographers are in a similar boat. Rated No. 1 for the occupation that's most likely to get divorced, dancers and choreographers have a 43.1 percent divorce rate.
5. High-stress jobs
The below list contains jobs on Forbes' list of the most stressful careers of 2014. Many of these careers involve elements of danger, or they feature long or irregular hours. Highly stressful careers are tough on an individual and on a couple, as well.
• Police or detective
• Military service member
• Event coordinator
• Senior corporate executive
• Public relations executive
• Newspaper reporter
• Taxi driver
ABC10's Emily Pritchard speaks to relationship experts and finds out how you can help avoid breakup pitfalls February 25 at 11 p.m.